To be with a married guy or not??
Got an interesting question on hand today : Should a gal get together with a guy even when she knows the guy is married? Before I embark further on this topic, let me first clarify tt I'm starting on this cox someone close got trapped in this and I was asking myself what I will do if I fall for a married guy. This topic is not finger-pointing at anybody, just in case some moron decided to make it personal.Ethically speaking, NO, the gal shouldnt be getting together with a married guy. C'mon, there are lots of available guys out there (yes I know, good or not is another problem) but the main pt is is she to be so desperate to be with somebody who can't give her a proper title/ relationship or even quality time since everything has to be kept under wraps? How do u even know he doesn't love his wife? Maybe he's just interested in the excitement of having an extramarital affair? Maybe he's just looking for a cheap flick? Really, you never know anything if he meant to keep it from you.Ok, but to be fair, I started asking myself..what if I really like the guy a lot and I know the guy likes me a lot as well? Maybe I like him so much tt I'm willing to continue this secret affair thingy with him. I mean, well, some women do not need a full-time boyfriend and having him once in a while solves the problem of loneliness, maybe not all the time but at least some of the time. It's just like having a weekend bf..but maybe this guy cannot afford his weekend, only some time on and off when his wife doesnt need his company. Stupid yes it may be, but some women are satisfied with it. We're not gg to talk abt long-term since anything can happen in future and it complicates matters.So, then what if I'm put into a similar position, what will I do? Emotional or logical choice? I think it all really depends on who the guy is, how much I like him and how much I think he likes me. I've always hated women who are the third-parties and I never wanted to become someone who spoils other relationship, doesn't matter whether the relationship is already shaky in the 1st place. Speaking from experience, the feeling really suckz. I do not wana become the type of person who gains happiness from other's misery. So yah, if I really made the choice to be with a married guy, it only means I like the guy too much to want to and be willing to make certain sacrifices.
Kisses XOXO Sunday, November 11, 2007
