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Backz..to blogging

Thousand apologies to friends who read my blog..hah recently abit "busy" to update..those close ones should know what I'm up to *grinz*

ok anyway...here r some recent happenings in my life --> not much if I have to say..be disappointed if u r expecting some out of the blue-ness thingy from me haha

Weesin's BD celebration @ Wala Wala..my current fav live band pub..

:: only 2 sets of cutlery were given to us & there were 4 of us..so anna happily said to me "y dun u show off ur skills and cut the fish up so that we can use our hands???" so here goes..my masterpieces..anna was happily chewing away on the fish while I was cutting it loh!!! ::

:: yeah..u guys rock...where am I?!?! I also rock wor...haha..oh yah ch was happily telling us his new discovery for our group's name while he was jogging..WATCH..each letter representing each of us.. gui eng leh ch haha...::

:: our pressie for the BD boy..leather belt from Braun Buffel ::

:: once tpl turns up..chaos is everywhere!! haha and her biggest contributions tt night were her cap and nerdy glasses ::

:: ws look so freaking "GOOD" *er-hem* that tpl fell in love with him immed loh haha..and everyone was fighting to take photos with him..ws, quick change image liao..u seem to be more popular with this style.. ::

:: have received comments tt this doesnt look like me..haha ::

Saw this note posted by one of my friends in FB and I rather agree with it so have decided to post it up for all to read..esp for the guys..

There are so many self help books in the market talking about the difference between men and women, but I am surprised that so many guys still have no idea what this woman creature is really thinking.

So for the sake of our sisterhood, let me do a summary of what women actually mean when they said something. Of course, to help my dear male friends from falling into traps again, ha, women does set up good traps to hunt the hunter.

Let’s start from something less complicated;When a woman says;

1. “Dear, are you hungry?” – that usually means that she is hungry, likewise, when you are driving and she ask if you need to go to the toilet or take a break, that means she needs it. However, it’s a art to answer in the most brilliant way. If you answer, “aiyah, if you are hungry you should say so” , that means you are not respecting her needs to be subtle, maybe that night you will wonder why she is having a headache when you want intimacy.

2. “Dear, am I fat/old/unattractive?”– ha, that’s a big trap, beware. You’re dead if you answer it honestly, even if that’s the truth. You woman is testing your love and checking if she is still attractive in your eyes. The best answer is, to look at her attentively, screening through her whole body, then give her an admiring look, “dear, you are still as beautiful/slim/pretty/attractive as you used to be, just like the first time I met you, even more beautiful now…” Girls need assurance once in a while.

3. “Dear, how do I look in this dress?” – when a woman tested out a dress and dare to wear it in front of you, that means she had already decided to wear or buy that dress. She does not need your approval or your citicism, she just wants your praise. The only you can say is “my dear, you look gorgeous….in everything you wear”

4. “Dear, how’s my cooking?”- I understand that in circumstances when the cooking really sulks make it very difficult for the men. If answer “great” then he has to live with that lousy cooking for the rest of his life, if answer critically then he might has to live with a grumpy face for the rest of the night, so how? Try this out “I am so lucky, to have my love one cooking for me…”, then in another occasion when she propose to cook for you again, tell her how much you value your time together and that you want to spend every single minute with her, so dining out is the best choice. However, if you really prefer home cook food, then go learn cooking yourself, cooking needs talent and interest, some people just not made for it, just accept it.

5. “Dear, I have a problem….”And she starts complaining about someone or something, usually it’s not about the economic crisis or global warming, usually it is something very minor or unimportant. Firstly, watch your expression, if your face show that “here you come again…” look, you are looking for trouble. Secondly, never never never cut her off while she is talking, lastly, stop trying to give her a solution. Something about men that simply irritates a woman is that they keep trying to give solutions. We do not need solutions, we just need someone to hear us out and empathize with us, that’s all. So if you may, just listen attentively, stay in zone, show your empathy, occasionally nod your head and agree, guess what? You become her hero!

6. “Dear, do you love me?”– a simple “yes, I do” is not enough if your woman start asking that question, what she really means is “dear, I don’t feel that you love me anymore, where are all those romance, roses, gifts, dates, movies, fire in your eyes, moonlight champagne etc etc”. Please start courting her again, never take her for granted, if you want your honeymoon to last forever. If your woman start to look less attractive, that means you have stop giving to her.

7. “dear, anything will do”- when you asked her at the dining table what she wants to eat. If you accept that anything will do for her, you are trapped. What she means is that as a boyfriend, you should know what she likes and what she dislike, she is testing you if you know her well enough. If at that point of time, you pinpoint a few of her favorite dishes and seek her opinion, you will score a big A star for that night.

8.“Dear, what is your plan for tonight?”- if a girl ask you that, that means she has some plans in mind already, or else she would not have ask. However, few girls like to take initiative to ask a man out, so if you can take the hint and invite her out “hey, I do have some plans, but you are more important than anything else, what do you want to do, my dear?”, you hit the jackpot. In usual cases, most men simply tell the woman honestly that they have something to do or they have no plans, leaving the girls frustrated and disappointed.

Until this point, some people might asked, so what about authenticity and honesty? Does it mean that we have to lie through our life and becoming cunning and deceitful? No, that is definitely not what I mean. What I am trying to put across is that if man can give us woman more empathy and sensitivity, it makes our life and your life easier.

Communication is an art, how to understand each other and make each other happy requires the heart. If you truly care for someone, you would naturally want to give love to her and make her happy. If honesty hurts, that means underlying the honesty lays some hidden attack energy. Though everyone is responsible for their own emotions, everyone is also responsible for the emotions of people around them. Thus, we can be honest, skillful, authentic and fun at the same time, trust me. We just need some practice and occasionally some healing, that’s all.

As for my female reader, if you are so straight forward, direct to the point, thoroughly open and authentic, then either you are so comfortable and confident about yourself or that you have more masculine qualities than the feminine qualities, either way is good. The guys usually will feel that you are a great buddy, cos you talk exactly like them !!!

Ok..to summarize..life's pretty monotonous..work's busy..had time today to do what I've wanted to do for a week..went facial threading, leg and arm waxing..booked appt for facial this sat morn..

hmm the next most exciting thing coming up shld be anna's wedding bah..soooo looking fwd.. p/s: anna got me a good-looking emcee partner wor..haha

Kisses XOXO Thursday, October 16, 2008

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